Comments on: The Scam of Unselfishness

By: Anilia

Anilia — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 03:14:48 +0000

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By: drock

drock — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:02:42 +0000

thank you! i give and give qand give to my in-laws and i feel like i get trampled on all the time! on the 4th i wanted to run away and cry because they are so mean to me! i try to be so nice and give them presents and my time and my kind words, and it always always backfires. its like the harder i try and the more of myself i give the more i get disapointed. thank you for this article. you are my new inspiration!!!

By: Anilia

Anilia — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 21:30:18 +0000

Thanks Tams!!

By: Tammy Chandler

Tammy Chandler — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 06:05:41 +0000

This is by far one of THE BEST posts I have read by any author on self improvement, and I agree with everything that you said…..including your response about religion. Its not safe to assume we all share the same religious beliefs. Keep ‘em coming!

By: The Wholestyle Network » Blog Archive » Stop Being So Nice

The Wholestyle Network » Blog Archive » Stop Being So Nice — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 15:04:32 +0000

[...] others’ needs first, which often ends up with us not getting what we need or want. Anila at The Motivated Sista strikes down this idea and reminds us all that “nice” not only doesn’t pay, but [...]

By: Anilia

Anilia — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 21:57:44 +0000

you’re welcome Sis. Think about it like this: after you’ve had your ME time, you can give to your family and friends and be 100% present, not thinking about how tired you are or how much you’ve overextended yourself. You HAVE to give to yourself, in order to give to others…

By: Nita

Nita — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 23:59:16 +0000

Thank you for this.. Cause I’m trying to keep my ME time to just include me and not feel guilty about not including anyone else.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 20:47:59 +0000

I love this post!!!! And you are so right about the following:
“people only call you selfish when you won’t give them something that they want, ”
I have proven this to be true too often and I am now learning who I should be “nice” too and the list has greatly diminished!

By: Anilia

Anilia — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:47:32 +0000

thanks for your input CW. I’m not knowledgable about scripture so I appreciate you having my back

“Going about “giving” in the wrong way is not “giving” , but ENABLING!”

Exactly! Enabling you to have less in your own life and for others to take advantage of your kindess…

By: Anilia

Anilia — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:44:50 +0000

thanks Betty =)

“It’s a balancing act: keeping a velvet glove over an iron fist. And “No” is the most powerful word in our arsenal.”

its tough sometimes. I think alot of us women have the problems that we have because we either don’t know to have iron under that glove, or don’t practive the balancing act enough.