Top 5 Posts of 2010

December 30, 2010 by  
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This year was really big for Motivated Sista. I wrote my tail off, and I’m spending time this evening going through some of the posts from this year. Its part of my planning for 2011.

Hopefully you’ve begun your goal-setting for 2011. Join us on Sunday as we discuss how to have a motivated year. Click here to register.

Between the call on Sunday and the posts I list below, there’s plenty of motivation for you to kick of 2011 with a bang.

Here are the top 5 posts on Motivated Sista for 2010:



10 Inspiring Quotes By Black Women

This post, by far, is my most read post. I was feeling particularly inspired one night and I sat and wrote this. If you guys are on the Motivated Sista fan page, you know that I LOVE quotes. If you do too, you should check this post out.





Your Best Vision Board Ever

I just love these things. I won’t stop talking about vision boards. They just make me feel so good! This post contains 2 videos, that show you step-by-step how I made my most recent vision board. Making a new vision board is a great way to start 2011… hmm, maybe I’ll make another one!





Come Drop In My Bucket

I shared my bucket list and invited everyone to share their ideas with me. This was alot of fun and I really enjoyed it, I hope you did too.





3 Ways Black People Hold Ourselves Back

In honor of Black History Month, I thought it fitting to write about ways we as black people tend to hold ourselves back. I find it ironic that after facing slavery, Jim Crow and the Civil Rights movement, we find ways to keep ourselves and other black people from succeeding. If anything, we’d want to succeed to prove that racists are wrong about us, right?





You Are Not Your Circumstances

We all know that the only constant is change… but sometimes it can feel that someone has hit the pause button and you’re stuck in the exact same spot. In order to break free, try to move forward. Even if that means a very small step, just move.


Are You Being Lazy?

December 28, 2010 by  
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Today’s topic comes from Annabel Candy, via a comment she left on the Motivated Sista Page on Facebook. “What is the difference between procrastination and laziness?!” she asked. I had to think about that for a moment… because honestly, its really easy to say you’re ‘just procrastinating’ when really, you’re being lazy!



We’ve all been guilty of it too. As motivated as I am to reach for the stars, honestly, sometimes I just can’t. Or I just don’t feel like it. Or I’m tired. But fatigue is much different than caving into our feelings, and allowing how we feel to dictate our actions. We live in a society that has accepted procrastination as a normal part of the work flow, yet we don’t really acknowledge that our minds and bodies need periodic breaks from working hard.

Its not really sufficient to take 14 days out of a year to rest yourself. And I know alot of people who take ‘staycations’ during that time, and get work done around the house and other errands. That’s not really a break, vacation or rest from anything.

Constantly wearing your mind and body down leads to the place where you don’t want to get much of anything done. Before you know it, you keep putting things off, then working frantically to meet deadlines. Its an unhealthy cycle that can be avoided with a little mental toughness and planning.

Are You Being Lazy?


Before you start beating up on yourself, make sure what you’re feeling is not actually fatigue. Our society is structured in a way that doesn’t really promote periodic rest periods. But if you’re grinding steadily on your goals, its important to give yourself down time to refresh your mind and rejuvenate your spirit.

After that question is out of the way, the easiest way to tell if you’re being lazy is to figure out what your intentions are. If you’re trying to avoid the task altogether then you’re probably being lazy. Lazy people question why they need to act and bemoan the fact that they have to do what they have to do. In other words, they make excuses and allow their emotions to dictate their actions (i.e. “I don’t want to do it”).

On the other hand, procrastination is a temporary avoidance tactic. I find that I procrastinate out of a twisted sense of perfectionism: if I can’t do something perfectly, then I don’t want to do it. I recognize that I must still complete the task but I’m reluctant to put my name on anything that’s not ‘perfect’. What that really means is, I can’t do it within the vision of how it should go. I’m working on that habit because I fully recognize that things can’t always go how I envision them to.

How To Beat Procrastination


One of the breakthroughs I’ve had lately is that it’s ok to be lazy sometimes. What I think is laziness is usually fatigue or mental burnout. But in those times where I have energy, I’m inspired, focused and motivated, I make myself handle as much as I can. Getting things done ahead of time is one of the best cures for procrastination. That way, I’m not scrambling around trying to finish something at the last minute – when things are done ahead of time I can allow myself to be lazy, because my work is done.

Another way to beat procrastination is to get into the habit of performing tasks every day. Steady work toward a goal is one way to stop yourself from putting it off. If you assign yourself something small and constantly overdeliver, you’re sure to train yourself to stay ahead of your deadlines.

How do you beat procrastination and laziness? I’d love to read your comments on this topic.

10 More Inspiring Quotes By Black Women

December 8, 2010 by  
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At the beginning of the year, I listed 10 Inspiring Quotes by Black Women to keep us motivated and inspired to make this an amazing year. Now that 2010 is winding to a close, I feel that listing 10 more inspiring quotes by black women is in order. I hope the wisdom that these ladies imparts to you will keep you motivated to reach for success and have the mental toughness to keep going when your goals seem far away. You CAN do it… if you don’t take my word for it, take the words of 10 phenomenal black women to heart.

I had to make my own living and my own opportunity. But I made it! Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them.
Madam C.J. Walker

I used to want the words “She tried” on my tombstone. Now I want “She did it.”
Katherine Dunham

Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.
Toni Morrison

Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.
Alice Walker

My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Oprah Winfrey

We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily difference we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.
Marian Wright Edelman

I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.
Rosa Parks

Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing is impossible.
Mary McLeod Bethune

If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these together ought to be able to turn it back and get it right side up again.
Sojourner Truth

Our work has only begun. In our time we have an historic opportunity to shape a global balance of power that favors freedom and that will therefore deepen and extend the peace. And I use the word power broadly, because even more important than military and indeed economic power is the power of ideas, the power of compassion, and the power of hope.
Condoleezza Rice

How To Turn Right Side Up

December 2, 2010 by  
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I love it when you guys submit topics for me to write!

Today’s request is again from the Motivated Sista Facebook page: Dee suggested the topic “how to stay positive and motivate others when your world is turning upside down”.

I developed my own method around this problem during my first year of this blog. There were so many times when situations sucked, but I had to keep on pushing. Because how could I motivate you guys if I was attending a solo pity party? Now I’m definitely not perfect… if I just can’t give any motivation (I’m generally positive, unless I’m angry…lol), then I’ll take a break and come back with a new post when I have the motivation mojo.

If you haven’t yet mastered your own method of motivating others while dealing with your own situations, here’s what I’ve found.

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