Thank you guys for continuing to read and support my blog, and thank you most of all for investing in yourself by becoming motivated to reach your goals.
I’m reminded about the fragility and brevity of life by a recent loss. My cousin passed away yesterday morning, he was in his mid-40s. The first thought is always “life is not promised”, but really, we already know that. What do you plan to do with the time you have?
Here is the next video in my series on The Power of Your Dreams. I plan to bask in the beauty of my born day and reflect on how my thoughts become things daily. I’m also going to get a pedicure and a cupcake! LOL!
Until the next time I write, stay blessed and thanks for reading!
This mindset ties into the inherent belief that we aren’t good enough. Let me ask you – why aren’t you good enough? Exactly as you are? What changes do you believe you need to make in order to be a successful person?
If you’ve not received any other message I’ve written about, please believe me when I say – you’re good enough, just as you are, to reach your dreams. You’re not broken. You don’t need to be fixed.
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On Sunday I went to Sprinkles Cupcakes in Georgetown, out of a craving for sweets and out of curiosity over the cupcake craze. Since I don’t watch TV I haven’t been watching the cupcake bakery phenomenon unfold via the Cupcake Wars show. People here keep raving about Georgetown Cupcakes, but the line snaking up the block has always discouraged me from giving the bakery a try. So I was a bit surprised that there was another cupcake bakery right around the corner that also had a long line (less daunting) and that my friend raved about with as much enthusiasm. All in all I loved the cupcakes I bought (red velvet, key lime and vanilla hazelnut chocolate…key lime was my favorite, vanilla hazelnut chocolate could have had a stronger flavor).
Munching on all that sugar got me to thinking – who is the founder of Sprinkles? If they’re “the original cupcake bakery” (note: I found references to Manhattan’s Magnolia Bakery, often credited for starting the so-called “cupcake craze” in the 1990s), how’d the owner get started? So today I present my newest She-ro, Candace Nelson.
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There are several in my Google Reader that stand above the rest. Not only do I learn alot from certain bloggers, but their writing style makes their advice entertaining and engaging. I want to share my top 10 blogs with you, in the hope that you might find them useful in your goal achievement.
Upgrading your mindset
Sojourner’s Passport – Khadija’s blog is like a long, cool drink of water when you didn’t realize you were thirsty. Its the catalyst that makes you sit up straight and realize that you’ve nodded off and didn’t notice. I like to challenge paradigms, but for the most part I play it safe. She.does.not.
I highly recommend Sojourner’s Passport for the black woman who feels like she’s the only one who has certain thoughts; that the people and situations around her are not really reflective of who she is and who she’s capable of becoming; and for the woman who’s done talking and ready for action. I highly stress the word action.
Illuminated Mind – Jonathan writes about personal development but from outside the established norm. His goal is not to make you feel good, its not to regurgitate self-help cliches and he doesn’t strive to be your friend. Jonathan questions the way you think and shoves you outside your comfort zone. You can almost feel your toes going over the line that separates what you’re used to and where you need to head in order to grow.
Ridiculously Extraordinary – y’all already know I like Karol’s blog (here’s my interview with Karol). What makes Karol a cool blogger to read about is that he was never hooked into the “get a good job, buy a house, save money, retire” system that most of us were programmed to follow. So its almost like reading the thought processes of a person who lives outside the Matrix. Like Jonathan, he’s not trying to make friends – he wants you to see things in a different light.
Upgrading your appearance
Clumps of Mascara – I love Brittany’s blog because she makes makeup accessible to those of us who didn’t grow up reading fashion magazines. Brittany has written so much about all types of makeup that I come away feeling armed and dangerous in the drugstore makeup aisle. Her videos are fun to watch and sort of a refreshing opposite to all the MAC makeup gurus on Youtube.
Moptop Maven – I was really surprised to find that Nikole has only been blogging for a year. Her blog is a goldmine for information on natural hair, vintage shopping, cooking, crafting and natural living topics such as making your own products and replacing commercial products with natural ones. Sometimes when I’m tired and don’t have the energy to read I just look at all the gorgeous pics she posts.
What Would Emma Pillsbury Wear – last year I watched Glee online, since I wasn’t home to catch it when it came on tv. Outside of Glee and Family Guy, I don’t pay attention to what’s going on in tvland. I immediately loved Emma Pillsbury’s character for her clean-freakiness and her adorable, ladylike outfits. I squealed like a 5-year old when I came across WWEPW. Not only are Danielle’s posts funny, but her and her guest bloggers keep an eagle eye out for where you can buy some of the outfits from the show. Loves it!
Upgrading your relationships
Acts of Faith – Faith’s writing style is similar to Khadija’s, in that both women will not sugar coat reality for you. Faith helps you take the blinders off about your love life and encourages you to make better choices in the men you date. What I enjoy about Faith’s blog is that she totally analyzes a situation from a different point of view and pulls out wisdom that truly helps the woman who is determined to live well. If that’s you, then definitely check her out.
Black Women Interracial Marriage Ezine – I can’t remember how I found Evia’s blog, but she changed my perspective on interracial dating. Evia dispels the majority of myths that are prevalent about black women dating nonblack men. What was powerful for me, though, was all the pics that she has of happy, smiling, regular couples. It’s one thing for Melody Hobson to date George Lucas, but me and George don’t really hang out at the same Starbucks. So she shows every day black women like you and me that there’s a whole world of men that find us attractive. Her essays help you to put your best foot forward and change your dating game.
Upgrading your destination
Thrilling Heroics – Cody inspires my nomadic CEO dreams. His pics, blog posts and interviews with other mobile entrepreneurs encourage me that I, too, can have the travel freedom lifestyle. He recently launched University, where other traveling entrepreneurs can help you to reach that lifestyle goal, too. Plus its just cool to read about people who’ve broken out of cubicle nation on their own terms.
Fluent In 3 Months – Benny is a polyglot who’s learned at least 8 languages fluently, and he shows you how to become fluent in a language. He also writes about his travel experiences and his life as a technomad. What’s great about Fluent in 3 Months is that you really see that to travel the world, you don’t have to be rich. Seeing a dream come to life is awesome, don’t you think?
Check out these blogs and let me know what you think. What are some of your favorite blogs, for optimizing your goals?
10 Inspiring Quotes by Black Women to keep us motivated and inspired to make this an amazing year. Now that 2010 is winding to a close, I feel that listing 10 more inspiring quotes by black women is in order. I hope the wisdom that these ladies imparts to you will keep you motivated to reach for success and have the mental toughness to keep going when your goals seem far away. You CAN do it… if you don’t take my word for it, take the words of 10 phenomenal black women to heart.
I had to make my own living and my own opportunity. But I made it! Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them.
Madam C.J. Walker
I used to want the words “She tried” on my tombstone. Now I want “She did it.”
Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.
Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.
My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily difference we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.
Marian Wright Edelman
I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.
Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing is impossible.
Mary McLeod Bethune
If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these together ought to be able to turn it back and get it right side up again.
Our work has only begun. In our time we have an historic opportunity to shape a global balance of power that favors freedom and that will therefore deepen and extend the peace. And I use the word power broadly, because even more important than military and indeed economic power is the power of ideas, the power of compassion, and the power of hope.
I have been remiss in my duties as Motivation Maven – how could I have neglected to feature Madam CJ Walker??
She serves as a fountain of inspiration for countless African American female entrepreneurs, myself included. If you have not encountered her inspiring story, let me introduce her to you.
- Madam C.J. Walker was born Sarah Breedlove on December 23, 1867 in Delta, Louisiana. Her parents Owen and Minerva Breedlove, both ex-slaves, were sharecroppers who lived on the Burney plantation. She had 5 siblings. Her mother died first, possibly due to a cholera outbreak in 1872 (when she was 5). Her father remarried and died shortly afterward when she was 7.
- Sarah moved in with her older sister, Louvenia, and brother-in-law, Willie Powell. She later said she married Moses McWilliams when she was 14 years old to escape Powell’s abuse. Three years later her daughter, Lelia (called A’Leila) McWilliams, was born.
- When Sarah was 20, her husband was murdered by a white lynch mob. Shortly afterward she moved to St. Louis where three of her brothers were barbers. For 20 years she did backbreaking work as a washerwoman in Vicksburg and St. Louis. While working as a laundry woman, she was able to save money, educate A’Lelia, and join the National Association of Colored Women in the 1880s. In 1894 Sarah married a man named John Davis. That marriage ended around 1903. In January 1906 she married a newspaper sales agent, Charles Joseph Walker. After her marriage she began using the name Madam CJ Walker. They divorced in 1910.
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This is the first interview for Motivated Sista and I truly believe you’ll enjoy it.
How inspiring is that!
Can you tell I was nervous? I was worried that I’d pronounce Karol’s name wrong, my voice would crack (I was getting over a sinus infection), or that my computer would freeze and jack everything up. But the important thing was to feel the fear and do it anyway .
Highlights from the call:
- Karol’s inspiration to be a hustler
- Why freedom isn’t for everyone and how people hold themselves back
- How the Mind Control Method can help you reach your goals
- How the law of attraction is a scam
- Why he gave his work away
- The mindset to get unstuck
You’ll love this interview if you aspire to a mobile traveling lifestyle (as I do), if you like immersing yourself in different mindsets, or if you’d like to hear the perspective of an online business owner.
Links to Karol:
Karol’s blog, Ridiculously Extraordinary
Karol on Twitter
The American Dream Is Dead (free ebook)
The Mind Control Method
How did this interview inspire you today? Let me know in the comments.
That lie has touched almost every African American person in America.
If you’re not careful, not diligent and not focused, you can become a victim of that lie too.
So many have already fallen – are you strong enough to withstand the lie?
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The economic climate here in the US has been tense and rocky for the past few years. I have brilliant friends who’ve been unemployed and underemployed for at least a year. The forecast for our nation’s recovery isn’t promising, as everyone has said “things will get worse before they get better”.
This is not why your business will fail.
Consumers are now bombarded with more advertising and more businesses are competing for the average person’s time and attention. And they all have more money, more resources and a deeper understanding of your market than you do.
This is not why your business will fail.
There’s one simple, evergreen reason why you won’t be successful. Its the same thing that holds every business owner, professional, hell anyone who’s trying something new – this reason holds all of us back.
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I dream everyday. I think I’m actually too busy dreaming. I envision a future so bright that I sometimes forget to live in the present moment which sometimes causes me to neglect the obligations I have today.
I think she made a great point.
Getting Lost In The Sauce
It may be tempting to live in your head instead of living right now. Especially if the dreams you live in your mind are more appealing to you than the reality you live when you open your eyes.
For me, its so much more appealing to think about the perfect man who lives in my vision for my future, then it is to meet, interact and go on dates with the men in real life who I may not like. But if I allow my creativity and desire to get in the way of the opportunities I have every day, then I won’t get any closer to realizing moments that may meet or even exceed my vision.
How To Plan Your Visualizations
The first thing I do to ensure I don’t get lost in my own head, is to set boundaries for my visualizations. I typically visualize at the same time each day, which is right before bed. After I turn off the lights and get under the covers, I let my mind roam until I fall asleep. If I have time when I wake up, I visualize for a few minutes then too.
I used to visualize for about 15 minutes at a specific time each night. But I found that that took the fun out of visualizing and I felt it becoming a chore.
I also tend to visualize one dream at a time. I tried to visualize what my perfect day would be – I saw myself running my own business, being affectionate with my future husband, and living in my dream home. I also saw myself enacting some of the habits I wanted to install, such as working out every day and eating healthy foods.
I found that to be too overwhelming. I concentrated so hard on trying to cram everything into my vision and make it perfect. It just seemed contrived to me and it wasn’t enjoyable.
So I took a step back and let pictures flash in my mind until I eased into a visualization habit that felt fun and pleasing to me, without any pressure.
When visualizing, I also focus on those aspects of my dream that feel the hardest to accomplish or the farthest away. Sometimes when thinking about something I desire to happen, if it feels too far away or too hard to accomplish, then I get discouraged about it ever happening.
So I use my visualization time to see how it’d feel to actually have it, to reassure myself that its not as far away as it seems, and that reassurance adds to my motivation as well.
Dream About Tomorrow, Live For Today
I think focusing on one goal allows me to stay grounded in the present. I try to work on more than one goal at a time, and usually the goal I’m visualizing is not one I’m actively working on. Its so easy to get discouraged when you’re not yet where you want to be – so I try not to give myself reasons to feel like my life isn’t as great right now as it could be.
I often remind myself that I’m doing the best that I can, and if I can’t say that to myself truthfully, then I ask myself what I can do better.
So by bridging the gap between my vision and my present moment, I find ways to take steps to get from where I am to where I want to be. By analyzing my actions against my visualizations, I can see the areas I need to improve or change. And I take steps toward that, so that my dreams will become real one day.
Do you ever get lost in your dreams? Is it easy to feel like your dreams are better than your current life? Leave me a comment and let me know how you feel about today’s topic.