I wanted to wait until after New Year’s Day to give you this shocking message.
I hope you were expecting me to write about how awesome 2013 is going to be, how you’ll reach all your goals, and how this will be your best year yet.
But I’m not feeling that for you.
What you need to hear, more than what you want to hear, is the truth. And the truth is, 2013 doesn’t matter.
If you need the start of a new year to roll around in order to feel good about reaching your goals, then you’ve missed the point. And if you waited until January 1st to even think about or start planning your goals, then chances are they won’t happen.
It’s not my intent to be a Debbie Downer but to help you see the flaw in the way the majority of people think.
The majoriy thinks that they should wait until tomorrow to start, that they need to begin at some pre-determined time, that whenever they decide to put in the work, things will be ok.
This is partly true.
The whole truth is that time waits for no man. You need to get started today. No matter what day ‘today’ happens to be. Whether its a Sunday, the last day in December or just a regular old day. The Universe is working behind the scenes to orchestrate your wildest dreams – its just waiting for you to step up and meet it. So every day you wait, you delay the start of something big.
There’s nothing wrong with being in the majority. But I don’t think that’s where you really should be.
You were born with certain talents and abilities that set you apart from everyone else. That’s why you have the dreams and goals that you have.
So when you lump yourself in with everyone else, you’re assuming that you’re ordinary. But you’re not. You are extraordinary.
Extraordinary people don’t wait around for the right time to start. They make the time right by starting.
So which one do you choose to be today? Your choice is what really matters. Not the date on the calendar.
Have you heard of the show Downton Abbey?
The show is about a British aristocratic family and their servants, set in the days before World War I. (**The rest of this paragraph is a spoiler**) The youngest daughter, Sybil, is helping Gwen, one of the young housemaids, to find a job as a secretary. After Gwen didn’t get the first job she interviewed for she wanted to give up, but Sybil kept pushing her to keep trying.
In one scene, Gwen says “you don’t get it. You’re all brought up to think it’s all within your grasp, that if you want something enough it will come to you. But we’re not like that. We don’t think our dreams are bound to come true because they almost never do.”
Sybil replied, “then that’s why we must stick together. Your dream is my dream now. I’ll make it come true.”
This scene is one that has motivated me my entire life.
I always asked myself, “why do some people live their dreams, and others don’t?” At first I thought like Gwen did, that certain people made their dreams happen while ‘the rest of us’ didn’t. But as I learned about famous people, CEOs, business leaders and others who live extraordinary lives, I found that it wasn’t about money, about resources, or about luck.
It all came down to what each person believed.
We’ve seen countless examples of people who made a way out of no way – people who started with nothing and changed their lives.
So I want you to stop waiting for these circumstances to come into your life, because the greatest asset you have is time. Once that’s wasted, you can’t get it back – no matter how much money you have or who your parents are.
The only thing that separates the Gwens from the Sybils are the thoughts they believe about themselves and the actions they take based on those thoughts.
Which one will you decide to be today? Will you decide that only ‘certain people’ get what they want out of life – and you’re not one of them? Or will you decide that you’ll make your dreams come true?
By the way, Gwen got the job on the third try, thanks to Sybil. She wouldn’t let her friend quit and she totally believed in her. Ultimately Gwen started to believe too.
Is it all within your grasp? Do you want it enough to make it come true?
Today’s post is in part a response to my last one – You Are NOT An Entrepreneur.
One theme that I kept seeing in the responses and questions was “I can’t do it because…”
So today I want to give you some tips on how you CAN move forward and start working on your goals, right from where you are. The faster you start, the sooner you’ll get there. But the longer you stay stuck in your own mind and repeating thoughts of what you don’t have… well, it’s going to take you longer to reach the finish line.
What you can you do TODAY to get started? What help do you need from others? Don’t be afraid to ask, even here. You’d be surprised at the resources that already exist for you.
Last week I read Rosetta’s playlist over at Happy Black Woman and was inspired to share my playlist with you.
My first reaction to her list was “gee, if I post mine it would be full of ratchetness”. While it’s true that some of the music I listen to is ignorant and some other negative adjectives, it’s honestly what gets me going. Alot of popular music is filled with materialism, focusing on the wrong things, and woe-is-me-he-done-me-wrong messages that I do NOT subscribe to. I’ve stated before that the mind is like a sponge and you have to be careful about the messages you absorb over and over again.
That being said – here’s my list. Can’t say I didn’t warn you about the ratchet factor, but they’re not ALL bad.
Total Praise – Richard Smallwood
I listen to this song every morning after I’ve cleared my mind and before I meditate.
Mary Mary – Get Up
Talk about some awesome lyrics!! “What are you afraid of? Don’t you know what you’re made of…” When I first heard this song, I listened to it all the time. It’s an affirming, uplifting, feel good kind of song.
Goapele – Closer
This song is a mandatory addition to any playlist about motivation. I used it as the soundtrack to my first mind movie, and the lyrics just really inspire me to keep pushing.
Nicki Minaj – Moment 4 Life
Hate her or love her – this girl is doing her thing. It’s a great reminder of where I’ve come from, where I am and where I’m going.
Beyonce – Upgrade U
One of the hardest working women in the music industry, yet she comes across as humble and down to earth. And I’m constantly upgrading my mindset, so this song is perfect for me.
Jill Scott – Golden
no matter what’s going on in my life, I live it like it’s golden. Because what you focus on expands, so I focus on the good and expect more goodness to come my way.
Kayne West – Stronger
What I like about this song is that Kanye talks about the power of now – “I know I got to be right now/cause I can’t wait much longer”. Yeah he’s talking about some other stuff too, but that part of they lyrics plus the beat really get me pumped.
Rick Ross – Push It
What’s your limit? How far will you allow yourself to go? This song is great for motivating you to keep going.
Rick Ross – The Boss(clean version but explicit video… plus Rick Ross has his shirt off, who wants to see that?!)
My goal is to be The Boss…
Lil Wayne – Money On My Mind (clean version)
message here – let’s get it! Whether that’s money, success, whatever your biggest dream is.
What songs are on your motivational playlist?
I bet there are few people alive who are excited as I am about starting a new year!
What I love most is the feeling of starting with a clean slate. I love selecting a new theme for the year and this year’s theme is “Hungry For Success”.
In this video, I show you how I’m using my excitement for the new year to increase my success with the goals I’ve chosen for the year.
What goals do you have for this year, and how will you use your excitement to strengthen your resolve to see them through?
You know what terrifies me? The thought of getting to the end of my life and not accomplishing the major goals I set out to accomplish. Does that thought scare you too?
Ironically we’re all guilty of procrastinating and putting off starting our goals. If we’re scared not to accomplish them, why do we delay in starting? Why do we talk ourselves out of what we really want?
There are several reasons for this, but I believe the biggest two are fear and not being serious.
Time To Get SeriousI like to write about fear because it’s so debilitating. The feeling is real even though the reason we feel fear of success or failure is not. It’s simply the mind’s attempt to keep you safe, but at the same time it holds you back. Your mind isn’t structured to help you excel or thrive, it’s wired to help you survive. So anything above survival will be uncomfortable to do because it’s outside of your mind’s purpose.
You just have to talk yourself through your fears. Your goals won’t accomplish themselves, and saying “one day I’ll do it” won’t get it done either. Everyone feels fear, whether they make it look easy or not. And the famous people we look up to like Oprah, Bill Gates or Michelle and Barak Obama feel a stronger level of fear because they take bigger steps than the average person. They’ve just figured out how to feel their fear and do it anyway.
So if you have goals you wanted to accomplish in 2011 but didn’t, it’s time to get serious. Create a plan of how you’ll reach those goals in 2012, and think about the ways in which your mind convinces you to delay action. Come up with ways to get around this and take action TODAY.
We can keep dreaming about our dreams or we can finally move forward with what we want. Which choice will you make today? What accomplishments have you chosen for 2012, and how will you get started right now? The Power of Your Dreams” is How COURAGE gives you power.
People often succumb to their fear instead of using it to make them courageous. In this video I give 4 ways you can use courage to your advantage and get further in your goals.
How courageous are you when it comes to your dreams? What other ways can you use courage to take you farther?
In this introduction video I explain why I created this video series and how you can benefit from it. I also give you the structure and steps you need to use the power of your dreams to be the awesome person you were created to be.
As always, I welcome your comments and feedback to our discussion.
It absolutely hurts my heart to see so many capable, dynamic women who are wasting their talents every day. I get comments and emails about what people are planning to do – and I see people being stuck in their comfort zones with fear of failure holding them back.
If you were upset about Troy Davis, you should also be upset that you’re not living in your full potential. It’s sad that he’s dead and gone, but what about you? You’re still alive and breathing, yet you’re not doing everything you can to live life to the fullest.
Don’t waste your God-given gifts by continuing to play small. Take at least one step today to get closer to your dreams.
This mindset ties into the inherent belief that we aren’t good enough. Let me ask you – why aren’t you good enough? Exactly as you are? What changes do you believe you need to make in order to be a successful person?
If you’ve not received any other message I’ve written about, please believe me when I say – you’re good enough, just as you are, to reach your dreams. You’re not broken. You don’t need to be fixed.
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