I bet there are few people alive who are excited as I am about starting a new year!
What I love most is the feeling of starting with a clean slate. I love selecting a new theme for the year and this year’s theme is “Hungry For Success”.
In this video, I show you how I’m using my excitement for the new year to increase my success with the goals I’ve chosen for the year.
What goals do you have for this year, and how will you use your excitement to strengthen your resolve to see them through?
This mindset ties into the inherent belief that we aren’t good enough. Let me ask you – why aren’t you good enough? Exactly as you are? What changes do you believe you need to make in order to be a successful person?
If you’ve not received any other message I’ve written about, please believe me when I say – you’re good enough, just as you are, to reach your dreams. You’re not broken. You don’t need to be fixed.
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In January I wrote about setting a theme for the year, as opposed to setting resolutions. I’m really happy with that decision and I think it worked well for me. I can truly say 2011 has been epic for me – and just think, it’s not over yet!
Do you feel the same?
If not, here are ways to make sure you get it in with the time we have left.
Don’t Beat Yourself UpIf you haven’t gotten as far as you wanted to go thus far, dust yourself off and keep pushing. Now isn’t the time to beat yourself up or hold a private pity party. You don’t have time to waste on that. Instead, take a deep breath and start from where you are right now. Besides, beating yourself up feels like discipline, but it’s really not. After your emotions turn negative, it’s harder to get back on track. So don’t derail yourself further by beating yourself up.
Redefine Your FocusI find that the later it gets in the year, the easier it becomes for me to lose focus on my priorities. It’s incredibly easy for family, work and social commitments to get in the way of my chief aims. If this is true for you, now is a good time to cut back on doing those things that aren’t helping you get to where you’re trying to go. It’s okay to say no and put yourself first, really it is. And with the months we have left in 2011, the more you stick to your main focus it’s more likely that you’ll reach your goals before the year is over.
Edit Your PlansIf you sat down in January and planned out the year, now is the perfect time to reevaluate those plans to make sure you do everything necessary to reach the finish line. You can reallocate your time and resources and decide whether some goals are still attainable – or if some of your goals will be accomplished in 2012 instead. This way, you can account for all the unexpected changes you’ve had this year (without beating yourself up!).
Celebrate How Far You’ve ComeI admit that I’m not good at celebrating the milestones to my goals. When I’m feeling pessimistic about my progress, it’s easy for me to minimize what I HAVE accomplished and not celebrate the successes that I’ve already experienced. Take time out to pat yourself on the back. Use the momentum of knowing you’re a winner to push yourself to the end of the year.
What are the goals you’re planning to reach by the end of the year? It’s not too late – share them with me in the comments.
I’m familiar with what it takes to start a business and each step along the way. But that doesn’t mean I’m immune to the fear, self-doubt and worry that can come along when you put yourself and your ideas out there.
Sometimes you can get so paralyzed by the fear that other people will tell you ‘no’, that you don’t even put yourself in the game. And that’s really sad.
Because that is simply confusing one person’s opinion with your worth. For example, if someone looks at one of my shirts and doesn’t like them, I’ve come to learn that that’s just their opinion – their opinion isn’t a measure of what my business or my product is worth. Just as someone’s good opinion isn’t a measure of worth for me. Ultimately, I set my own worth – my opinion is the only one that truly matters.
How We Hold Ourselves BackI’ve found that we limit ourselves in alot of ways because we subconsciously seek outside approval. I think this is caused by being attached to the outcome of what we do. It’s not enough for us to start a business and do something we love – if other people don’t validate our worth, then we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough.
Here are four ways entrepreneurs hold themselves back, and strategies to get around them:
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Today’s request is again from the Motivated Sista Facebook page: Dee suggested the topic “how to stay positive and motivate others when your world is turning upside down”.
I developed my own method around this problem during my first year of this blog. There were so many times when situations sucked, but I had to keep on pushing. Because how could I motivate you guys if I was attending a solo pity party? Now I’m definitely not perfect… if I just can’t give any motivation (I’m generally positive, unless I’m angry…lol), then I’ll take a break and come back with a new post when I have the motivation mojo.
If you haven’t yet mastered your own method of motivating others while dealing with your own situations, here’s what I’ve found.
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The economic climate here in the US has been tense and rocky for the past few years. I have brilliant friends who’ve been unemployed and underemployed for at least a year. The forecast for our nation’s recovery isn’t promising, as everyone has said “things will get worse before they get better”.
This is not why your business will fail.
Consumers are now bombarded with more advertising and more businesses are competing for the average person’s time and attention. And they all have more money, more resources and a deeper understanding of your market than you do.
This is not why your business will fail.
There’s one simple, evergreen reason why you won’t be successful. Its the same thing that holds every business owner, professional, hell anyone who’s trying something new – this reason holds all of us back.
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Don’t read this post if you want to be ordinary…
Goals, goals, goalsgoalsgoals. That’s all I’ve been talking about lately, both on this blog and in real life.
Let’s take a step back for a second.
Do you believe you will reach all of your goals?
Do you believe that you deserve every blessing, every accolade, every accomplishment and every breakthrough that’s coming your way?
Don’t just say ‘yes’. Stop and really marinate on that. I’ll be here when you get back.
We are afraid of failure – what if we try and we don’t succeed? Will everyone know we’re failures? Will all those people who didn’t believe in us, who didn’t share our vision or feel our passion, stand up, thrust their fingers in our faces and say “I told you so!!”? Why do we feel like we should have more than what we already have? Why do we want to reach for more, anyway? Shouldn’t we be happy, content, satisfied with what we already have? Who are we to demand more out of life?
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I receive immense inspiration and motivation from reading the stories of other women, that’s one of the reasons I have my She-Ro series. I hope you receive the same enjoyment from reading how we all started, and that our stories inspire you to take a few more steps along your path to success.
Anilia, Motivated Sista
Anilia is an entrepreneur and blogger, who writes about motivation, personal development and self-esteem.
My journey on this path grew from my t-shirt business, Black Girl Tees. I kept reading that online businesses should implement blogs as a way to draw attention to the business and let customers get a feel for who the owners are. So I started the blog Black Femininity. While writing on issues affecting black women and girls, I constantly had to reign myself in from writing about more personal topics, such as goal-setting and personal development. I found it increasingly difficult to talk about the issues we face without going on these tangents.
One of my strongest traits is being a good listener and I honestly enjoy when friends and family ask me for advice (but I hate when people don’t listen, and then come back and tell you that you were right… but I digress…). I started to notice that I was answering the same questions over and over again, such as “how do I start this new goal, when my mother doesn’t approve?”, “where do you get your motivation from to do all the things you do?”, and “how can I get closer to completing my goals, when I feel so stuck?”.
So I felt that writing about personal development, self-esteem, goal setting and the law of attraction – topics I am more knowledgable about – would be a better tool for other women to use, instead of just limiting myself to news topics that affect black women and girls. I’ve been blogging at Motivated Sista for 10 months now, and feel that I definitely made the right decision. Now I’m ready to take my blog to the next level!
Patrenia, Personal Finance Notebook
Patrenia is an Accredited Financial Counselor and entrepreneur who writes about ideas, education and motivation for financial success at Personal Finance Notebook.
My current path is teaching and discussing the object that’s needed almost as much as oxygen – money. The motivation came from my own personal and work related experiences with money. See, I had no problem making money; keeping more of it was the issue. For my husband and I, maintaining a home and the needs of two growing kids became a roller coaster ride of a growing – declining – depleted savings fund. After many moments of frustration and realizing that we had it all wrong, we became students to learn how money should really be managed and successfully paid off about $93,000 in debt along the way. Being in the mortgage industry, I also noticed that many of my clients had the same money issues. So after recognizing that my clients, most of my friends and family and I had it all wrong…I became compelled to share this information. My hope is that many people will be intrigued with the information I share, seek knowledge and take action to transform their financial lives. I now know that it CAN be done!
CW, Black Women Deserve Better
CW’s blog “Black Women Deserve Better” was an exercise in truth, self-discovery and healing. It is her mission to help Black women get the love, respect and commitment they deserve.
Circa 2001 (Particularly after September 11th), I began deeply contemplating the direction in which my life was moving. Events such as these remind us that life is too short to waste on non-productive endeavors. It was as if myself, and nearly every Black woman who I encountered was on the same hamsterwheel. Stats such as age, height, weight, education level were not a mitigating factor in this phenomenon: On the job, the neighborhood, family, friends and friends of friends. Our stories were eerily similar. Being trapped (self-imposed or otherwise) in our routine…Or shall I say stagnation? Visiting the same hang-out spots, dating the same types of men and having the same conversations ABOUT those alleged men. This scenario played out time and time again over the years. At some point along the way, it was unfathomable that I was the only one sick and tired of being sick and tired. Without veering too far off topic, a number of Black women are familiar with being told:
Topics which have been discussed ad-nauseum on the BWE (black women empowerment) blogs. I found it quite amusing that for all the things we ought to do, our situation overall wasn’t much improving. I observed an increase in OOW (out of wedlock) children, decrease in marriage, abdication of male responsibility, bashing of Black women and the haphazard “dating”. We are well aware of the negative behaviors which manifest as a result, but nonetheless, our children have suffered most. I want to give our daughters a fighting chance at living quality adult lives, with healthy relationships. This is one of the reasons I began “Black Women Deserve Better” three years ago. My book (by the same name) reveals the mind control and deceptions used (often by “our own”), to keep Sisters in their place. But my work doesn’t stop there. I periodically facilitate workshops and design courses to assist Black women in navigating the treacherous waters. In addition, one of the new hats I’m wearing is “Dating & Life Coach”. The goal is to uncover the real reasons why we often run into walls -and I have already ran into most of them a while back! My desire is for Black women not only to want change, but also to BE THAT CHANGE. Know that our daughters are counting on us!
Anilia’s note: please check out CW’s book, Black Women Deserve Better and her online workshop, Building Upon The Change.
Kim, Fit Sisters Boot Camp
Kim is a teacher by day and has her own fitness business where she helps women to get into the best shape of their lives.
I combined my love of teaching with my love of staying healthy to start my boot camp business. I believe that you must put your health first, because if you’re not healthy then your quality of life is at jeopardy. Staying healthy is a lifestyle — not a one-time act. Once you get into the groove of that lifestyle and start reaping the benefits, you will never go back. I love helping and showing people “the way” to a better quality and more fulfilling way of life by putting one’s self first.
Danielle, The Style and Beauty Doctor
Danielle is a stylist and makeup artist with a financial industry background. She is also president of Urban Glamour LLC, an image consulting company that offers personal styling, wedding, and makeup services. She also edits a fashion and beauty blog, The Style and Beauty Doctor.
My motivation came just when I was on line waiting for my college graduation to start. I was getting my BBA in Marketing and was kind of just standing there thinking about my future… when I overheard two girls saying they would take classes at The Fashion Institute of Technology. Who knew eavesdropping could take you on your path! I knew I always wanted to do something in fashion — in high school people would often ask me what to wear with what — I just never thought I could make a career out of it. Several months after graduation, I enrolled in the Image Consulting program and then completed the two year program. I’m so glad I made my decision. Never before have I felt so “myself” than when I can tell someone what looks great on their body type and/or skin tone. I love what I do!
Tamyka, The CEOMamma
Tamyka is a wife, mother and entrepreneur. She’s the Founder/Owner of TheCEOMamma and teach women entrepreneurs how to build a business on a budget.
There were a couple of things that motivated me to journey down my current career path. The first being that I was gifted with an entrepreneurial Spirit. I knew from a very young age I wasn’t cut out to work for someone else. I always had the drive and passion to “create my own”…whatever it may be!
The second motivational force is that I truly enjoy helping people. Not just in business, but however I can. I’ve always seemed to attract people who felt comfortable enough to share with me their deepest worries and concerns and I’d freely offer up support, encouragement and guidance.
Growing up, I was often misunderstood and my ideas often went unsupported, especially when I started my first business in Direct Sales (even by my own family). As an adult, things didn’t change much. I began to realize many entrepreneurs experience the same things and I wanted to be of help to those who needed it.
In my business, I share many resources and tips on building and marketing a business on a budget and have inspired many women in the process. I know this is the right path for me because I’m truly fulfilled in what I do! Give and it will come back to you, go measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over…is what I believe and live.
So tell us, Motivated CEOs and Boss Ladies, what motivated you to start on your current path? How is your journey unfolding?
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Introducing: Motivated Sista CircleOne of the reasons I became a motivation/personal development blogger was that I am constantly surrounded by dynamic, inspiring women. Some of those women don’t see how amazing they are (and I hope you realize your own value when I write); some of them have also taken their knowledge to the internet to teach others how to live their best lives, as I have.
I’ve assembled a circle of fabulous, motivated sistas to continue to inspire our readers to strive for success. I’ve dubbed this inspiration roundtable as the Motivated Sista Circle. Once a month, we’ll post our thoughts on an intriguing question, and hope that our collective voices will motivate you to continue to reach your goals.
May’s Motivated Sista CircleOur question for May: how do you define success?
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