Just Say Yes To Change

April 13, 2010 by  
Filed under health, motivation

After my first week of eating healthy and working out, I feel great about the path that lies ahead of me. Even though I try to embrace change and not resist it, when it comes to food I admit that I’m not that adventurous. I stick with what I know is good and don’t like to be disappointed when trying new things.

But that reluctance also means that I’m not falling in love with new things either. Playing it safe is definitely something I don’t advocate, and I’ve been telling you guys to choose your dreams over security. I don’t think good health should be a dream – it should be a natural state of existence for all of us. Yet we’re one of the fattest nations in the world, and since we’re a ‘developed’ country we should know better.

I digress…

One Foot In Front Of The Other

I am in no way saying that I’ve fully transformed my habits of eating after just one week. What I am saying is that, after putting forth effort, I am pleasantly surprised that making healthy choices not only feels good, but tastes much better than I expected.

The catalyst for this blog post was today’s mini-epiphany. I’ve been following a meal plan I got from Oxygen Magazine, and honestly I wasn’t thrilled by some of the suggestions. I’m a mac & cheese, cheeseburgers and fast food kinda gal, so you can understand why couscous, frozen berry smoothies, pita bread and mixed greens didn’t appeal to me. This extra weight doesn’t appeal to me either, so I was willing to give their way a shot.

I told myself that I’d just try each new suggestion and if I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t eat it again. Let me tell you how surprised I was that I’d like peanut butter, banana and honey on whole grain bread; melted cheese and tomato in a pita; key lime and strawberry cheesecake yogurt; and friggin’ couscous… yes I’m still surprised but I had a very yummy day today. When I had couscous with my dinner I just knew I had to blog about it. Yes its that serious (lol).

But that’s how change happens. You accept one change, then another, and once it sinks in that change is not always bad, then making big changes isn’t so daunting. It also helps to be open to new suggestions and to stick to your resolve when you know that old ways of doing things are no longer working for you.

Another important aspect of saying yes to change is recognizing that change takes time. You’re making a conscious effort to allow changes into your life, but your mind is not with the program. Your mind likes routine, craves familiarity even at the detriment of your body, career and even self-esteem. So also allow for the time it takes your changes to become habitual to your mind. Your mind will probably fight you at every turn, reminding you how comfortable your old routines are. Just stick with it and before you know it, your changes will be an integral part of your life.

Speaking for myself, my mind flashed on alot of my old habits – taking the elevator when the stairs are available, skipping workouts, and flashbacks of the cookies n’ cream ice cream in the freezer keep popping up. During those times, I just think about how good a new discovery tastes, or that my mind is out to get me and the ice cream (or whatever inappropriate suggestion) will not be as good to me as my memory is leading me to believe.

Have you implemented some new changes lately? What were some of the ways you said yes and accepted them into your life? What changes are you anticipating in the future?

What Self Love Really Means

January 26, 2010 by  
Filed under personal development, self esteem

Self love is one of those concepts that I struggled with. Not that I didn’t know intellectually what it means to love yourself, but I couldn’t wrap my brain around the practical application of this concept. What are you supposed to do, hug yourself? Make, ahem, love to yourself? When people say “love yourself better than anyone else can”, it just wasn’t computing for me. Of course I love myself more than anyone else can, I thought. I’m with myself 24-7-365, who loves me better than I do?



Well one night, I had an epiphany on the meaning of self love. To love yourself simply means that you give your best efforts to yourself first. That doesn’t mean I wait until I have company to clean my house or wait until I’m in a serious relationship to learn how to cook; I do those things for myself and give to myself a higher level of care than I would to others.

It also means:

  • I love yourself enough that I don’t subject myself to a cluttered, dirty environment
  • I take care of my body - I feed it nutritious foods that make it feel good and I work out to keep everything running in optimal condition; I also have adequate energy and feel happy from the hormones that are released from working out
  • I look my best because it makes me feel good to look the best that I can, and I take pride in how I look, not for the attention of other people
  • I do the things I enjoy to make myself happy
  • I get my finances together to alleviate the worry in my own life and I do more for myself and fulfill the plans that I have through my finances
  • I honor the time I give to others at work by handling my finances properly


The biggest part that links all of these is discipline. I sacrifice the instant gratification of being lazy, just throwing on anything, not being prepared and spending whatever I want. I take the longer, harder route of telling myself no upfront and getting into the habit of telling myself no, so that I can stick to my budget and my plans. Later I will have what I want and a life that runs smoothly. That is part of self love also. I can get more done, reach more goals faster, when I’m happy, healthy, and in love with myself first.

What is your definition of self love? How do you implement this into your daily life?

How bad do you want success?

December 30, 2009 by  
Filed under motivation

The other night, I was flipping channels and came across Dave Ramsey’s show on the Fox Business channel. I had seen it once or twice before, and figured it was a good way to spend an extra hour. That night, Chris Gardner was on the show, pushing his book Start Where You Are (which I’ll be reviewing soon). I found Chris’s segment to be really inspiring and of course bought his book after that. At the end of the show, Dave has this saying he always closes with: “live like no one else, so later you can live like no one else”. And then he used this huge pair of scissors to cut up a credit card.
That saying really struck a chord with me. Click here to continue